HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

       This may not be the best time for me to write on this
because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer
resist the push.

"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go
to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are
prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers
and grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were
more men than women then, or there was an
adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I
don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values
and were prepared to build a home and not park into
a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age
and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes
out in search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created what we
now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.

Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to
define her dream husband; you get things like "he
has to be tall, handsome, educated, fair, and rich, own a house
at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then,
check the number of girls around you and the
number of men that meet that standard, and you will
see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer
in my father's house and then go and start suffering
with a man."

What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning,
you have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns
around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No
one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small
and end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that the description majority of girls
give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50
girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits
what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only
pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".

Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the
face of our economy to find a man who is of
marriage age who possesses all those things these
ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet
fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is
not enough to match all those searching for already
made husbands.(This is why they always fall for the wrong ones who would use and dump them. Then they later carry the "all men are the same saying".) If you look around, majority of the
ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who
are ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity.

The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change
your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and then saw that it
may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose
for making him, without a help mate and then made
the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete
and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building
the family of God here on earth.

For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty,
it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A
MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today,
may only be a route to where God has destined him
to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE
THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES.

I am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men
are husband materials. What I am saying is that you
should stop setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO
HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT
IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is
made of is, most times, not seen with the physical
eyes, only its effects can be seen.

Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is
temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

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